The F-Word...

Growing up, I was VERY shy! At social events, I would often be so nervous in games where guys had to interact with girls. "Man she looks good... What if I don't look the same to her? How do I talk to her without stumbling over my words?" And then the summer before I went into high school, I told myself, just talk to them! They still breathe and dream and feel and talk just like you do... So high school called for me leaving my friends at lunch and introducing myself at tables with all girls. For some reason, I didn't find it that bad at all... I ended up making more friends and they even spoke to me about situations they had with guys and needed a guys perspective. Here's where the guys should listen... No, seriously... LISTEN! Listen to what they like to do, what makes them happy, and where their interests reside. From doing this for quite awhile, I started learning about the beautiful F-word. Flirting.

The dictionary defines flirting as "behaving as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions." This can indeed be a dangerous act, as if the person likes you, they can take you seriously and receive your actions in a more personal way. I found that flirting helps a guy to understand what girls like and don't like without having to put your heart on the line. As I said before, it was hard for me to talk to girls at one point, but now I know that not everyone is for everyone, and a rejection from one girl is an open opportunity for a reception from another... 

I realized that people enjoy compliments... I NEVER used to be able to compliment anyone, but an opportunity with one potential girl passed when I kept my mouth shut about how I felt about her and I realized that one compliment can go along way, even into the flirting realm. So now, after complimenting girls to their faces for some time, I've been considered to be a flirt. For example: if I think a girl looks good on a particular day, I would definitely let her know, but in a flirtatious kind of way... Girls should feel special about themselves... After all that time spent in a mirror, shower, or make-up kit, a compliment is well-deserved. Guys, be careful with the power of the F-word... Use it in moderation, for you never know which girl you wanted to talk to who actually may WANT to talk to you! Both genders have the capability of seeing the big picture - we just always end up looking at it from different sides of the canvas...

-DaL!ngo